Last session got deleted because Camp Nakamun has bad service and everything sucks.
Basically Pastor James talked about the things we need to do after we are dwelling in Jesus.
And that just means that we need to reflect on our actions, because those are the things that will express our emotions.
I also got prayed for in my sendoff weekend.
We spoke prophetic words over Pastor John and Ana.
We met up in small groups and talked about what it looks like to be a Christian and serve outside of "These Four Walls."
Left camp Nakamun.
Big post below
Church @ The Project
Baptism Sunday.
Chris from last weekends worship night.
James from Menergy.
Kalista? Twin
Nate?
Brooke from Young Life
Frederick. Catholic background
Jessie. Best friend Jordan.
Announcement Andy!
On The Spot -Marriage
Married couples:
Anket & Diandre
Carlos & Kennedy
Nick & Michelle
Compared to when you were single to now, what were your thoughts on marriage?
Marriage is for sex. But marriage is not all about sex, sex isn't the best part of marriage. Sacrifices for the person you love. Becoming a dad.
Marriage is work, you see them all the time, you aren't perfect with them, when you're married you unload on them.
I was excited for marriage, you get to witness their life, and they get to witness your life.
Sex as well. Honouring your SO, bringing in more baggiage than you needed to. She had so much grace and he gets o experience it every day.
Expectation:marriage is great, but tough and all the work. Constantly think about how your actions affect another, being selfless is weok. It's awesome, it's fun, doing awesome stuff together every day.
Why get married? 50% ends in divorce. I wanna slap my old self, being vulnerable with another person, no stopping them off an d leaving them. Growing as one flesh. It's hard but learning how communicate is worth is and is so much more fun.
The things u outwork at become the miost fun. Things.
What did you do right before marriage?
Surrounding ourselves with good people who spoke into our lives. Married couples. Support. Advice, future.
Cancer in family. The established individual relationship win God help, and how dous the couples rlrstiihsip work as well. Dealing with stuff.
What do you wish you did before you were married? Doing it right
Accountability. Spiritually, as a guy. Masturbation? Married means spiritual life is easy, read the bible every night like good Christian couples. Not being a good leader at He start. I assumed she would taker her role and I would take mine. Establishing my role as leader I sucked at.
We would've had others holding us accohntsble, them being a apart of our lives, nobody to lean on or talk to about it.
What have been the best tools or supplements in your marriage?
Pre marriage course at church. Thin Ng's you argue about. Fighting fair. Putting their needs before yours.
Navigators counsel, preset questions, what did I do that made you happy. Any unresolved hurt or feelings. Making time to focus on your relationship.
Arguing well. Being too similar, not escalating, figuring it out right away. Not going to bed angry, making me tired. Figure out before we move on.
Quick to say sorry, don't keep fighting over whatever, even if it wasn't your fault approach it. Take it head on. Saying sorry. Escalate from there!
Take her on dates, coffee. Don't just sit an dcoexist, but go on walks where you need to communicate and be a part of others lives
Observing otherpeopel, asking questions, reading books. They look greetX what are they doing righ
None of them feel like they're perfect for it. We're all always figuring it out, you're always falling forward into it.
Do you think everyone is meant to be married?
Bit really, enerrioke jas different purposes.
Women look for in men?
?? Man that sees his wife in, man that's
Men look for in women?
Not crazy, cook, through the stomach, serious note, be yourself around and funny and serious, but serious at the same time.
Will marriage make you happy?
It's hard, but I hope so. I might not always like you but I will always love you. Knowing they're there no matter what
Marriage is one of the rnst things you. An do, but one of the hardest things you will ever so.
Ephesians 5:21 "submit to one another out of reverence to Christ."
Submit is different in our culture. Not like how Paul uses. Submit to one another, not to one other. It's about the whole unit.
Until your ready to give yourself as a benefit to the whole unit.
Wives, if you had a husband who lived you likejesus loved you, it would be easy to entrust them in your life. Don't go chasing waterfalls. Wait until you find that person.
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church. He gave up his life for her. Are you willing to break your laptop to make this marriage work. Every marriage has an opportunity to experience Jesus love. Guys unless your willing to lay your rights down for the benefit of your wife you ain't ready.
Submit to one another out of the example and respect for christ. Even when we be treated him he came and mended the brokenness.
Marriage is the longest and hardest. But if you honour it it'll bring you closest to what Christ wants for you.
Dialogue about marriage submitted questions.
How young is too young to get married?
Divide by 2 add 7?
22-21?
There are a few things you wanna pay attention to. How do you now your doing it the right way. Make sur you're as similar as possible. Dogs looking like your owners? Find that. Values and goals? Similar in that. Opposites attract until they start attacking rags other. Creates friction. Similar deep held values. Kids, travel the world. Can you look at them and say that you would naturally be friend, that you would organically get along very well.
If you don't know why you wanna do in life? Passions and direction where you wanna go. Make sur r you Nile your bagisgr and unconscious baggage. Knowing your blindspots. 21-25 creates s 15% divorce rate.
If a guy says you complete me? I don't feel like marrying half a man.
If you don't know, you'll create an identity out of that person.
Financially. Thinij g about that crates security. Are you aware about your financial situation? What it X happens?
Are your parents on your side with marriage?
What do you want to see before you'll marry someone?
Never submit to you if you're not confident in your ways of leading.
Value system. Love Jesus and has the relationship wtb God, listening and asking direction. Knowing what you're attached and drawn to. God has been shaping your identity. That is what is goinf to create the healthy space.
What wil you do if you are married to someone who is married to video games?
If you brought it up and there is no shard reciprocation? Try to find a third party to manage the conversation. Be honest with what your feeling, don't see that person through your bitterness. Seek help out. Video games are a huge detriment to marriage.
Healthy behaviours and decisions lead to healthy emotions. If you aren't making the right choices then you haven't been having then right behaviours.
Why even get married it's the 21 century we edont need labels?
That's one way of seeing it. I see the marriage vow and covenant is not pushing away and separating love. It supercharged and advances them.
I'm commuting to love you and to be faithful, I'm commuting for your future and eeer both submitting to that. My love is at s marriage level, I'm in it all the way. "I will commit to you in life and death before you could even commit to me." Marriage is meant to express what god intends to express in reliishoo with us. Greatest way to love someone
How important is mareiage prep?
You gotta do more work to get s drivers license than it is to get married. Over 36% of couples that do marriage prep have a mor Erik filling marriage. It's the longest thing you do in life. Married at 35 and die at 85? That's 50 years of your life. Marriage prep helps you, gives you the tools to communicate about sex and finances and annoying habits.
Before you get engaged get marriage counselling. At least read s book. The other person is worth it.
What about this cases wher some couples get married after a month? They don't find out about those habits until after marriage?
Being a good communicator, talked about your feelings. If you learn to communicate well it means you invest into your SO, after investing into them you can overlook their annoyances. Communicating your annoyances is easy, and then you will show that you love them by Doing something about it. Different love languages and such. Communication can get over anything?
How do you know if you've found the one?
Once you say I Do.
How do I support my spouse aside from going to church together?
Our spiritual life is s long journey. Things are going to happen. Be in tune with one another Anne where they're at. Are you praying about them more than you are taking about them? Talk to them and pray about it. God heard prayers and He is the one to chfsngr people. Posture of prayer, giving things to God and allowing Him to work. If it brings goodness and gentleness it is a good thing.
Being in others to encourage and work with you.
My fiancé supports my faith, but doesn't believe?
I would have spoken to the person that brought me here, asking for help from those in faith.
Biblical instruction in Corinthians.
If you aren't married you aren't married. It's hard to recognize while your in it.
One of you will compromise your values. Unfair to ask of someone. This is an important thing to ask. Wife or husband if you're married to someone who doesn't follow Jesus: pray for them and act like Christ in that relationship. Don't push your agenda. God doesn't do that. Pray and believe for your spouse, and be Christ like as much as you can.
What about friends who are good Christians and date someone without faith?
Do not base your life on exceptions. We all wanna base our life on best case scenario. That sets us up for disappointment and failure. It could happen, and pigs could fly.
You need to be wise. You are making decisions that will form the rest of your lives.
Do not screw with a relationship that will affect the rest of your lives together.
It's a role reversal. The Jesus lover falls away and the anti God person finds Jesus.
It's way too important a conversation to not have and not talk through.
We want you to do it well. Nobody does it perfectly. Learning to work with each other, learning good habits and unlearning bad habits. Nothing will shape you more than relationships.
That's all for now.
