Definitely a garbage two days to start this career hold on. Yesterday my partner just three me for a loop for the first bit of the first game. Just an attitude/personality clash I think.
It did teach me a bit, I was able to look at myself with a more critical eye, seeing what habits I fall into and what I should be working on improving.
Today I got to experience a terrible coach. Gave him a technical, it was a game where I completely lost my voice afterwards (due to other factors as well but the game was the primary cause). It was a situation where a more experienced/mature official would have caused a different result, although if everyone involved (coaches) were less selfish it wouldn't have been a thing at all.
I just want to say that the whole thing is about the kids. They just want to play some basketball, and especially at this level (moderate/beginner) it is more important to look after the players: safety, fun, game involvement, sportsmanship etc.
Anyways my voice is gone but overall I did enjoy my refereeing experience and I look forward to improving myself in the future.
Young Adults @ CCC
Pastor Dean & Laura Panel - Pastor John & Ana
How we met?
Church Camp and first kiss story.
What sort of activity should I have in the search for my spouse?
Hard to steer a parked car.
Let God direct you.
Be the best you you can be,
Work on you, God is grooming you for you future spouse.
No one perfect person, there are a lot of people for you, they are all people. God will take you to the flower garden and you shall pick one.
Things you should look for in your spouse, all sorts of shapes and sizes and scents and gifts and skills that you can look for and pick.
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Is it sinful to date a non christian, "missionary dating"? Flirt to convert
How can two walk together if.... Amos 3:3
Your spouse needs to be a lover of Jesus Christ.
Look for the fruit of it, look for their passion for discipleship, a teAchabld spirit, will they obey God in the hard things? Do they tithe (time, money, etc) don't expect they to change, would you marry that person as they are? Don't expect them to be able to change.
When you're dating you put your best foot foreword, you do things you want them to see.
Rose coloured glasses.
Should we always date with the intention of marriage? What should we be doing?
Dating is not a game, it should be used to find someone who you would marry. If you would never marry that person, don't date them!
If you don't intend to marry them you are really going into the relationship with the wrong reasons.
We are all wired sexually. The problem with just having a bf/gf gives you a big temptation to go into a deeper sexual relationship. Setting yourself up for disappointment and failure.
Developing soul ties with others who you have shared a sexual relationship with will create emotional baggage.
Be friends first before you jump into that romantic relationship.
Hang out in group settings,
Common sense.
Promise each other what your limits are. Create boundaries and respect them.
Don't fool around with sex before marriage.
Did you see lifelong commitment modelled in your family of origin?
Laura - Yes
Dean - No. fighting every week, remarriage. You have a choice. You can become like your environment or you can make a conscious decision to avoid that.
So you accept conflict or view it as a threat? What does it mean to fight fair?
Will have disagreements: two lives blended together to be come one will be a union to work for. Conflict resolution is a key aspect in a healthy relationship.
Dialogue, discuss, treat with respect, avoid exaggerations (you ALWys, you NEVER, etc).
Time and a place, be prepared to talk. Create an environment where situations are well allowed.
In a good frame of mind. "To go to the person, not your mother, your friend don't take it to your people first. Pray about it, bless them and forgive them, right and work out the situation. With grace and without offence.
Don't listen to the incorrrct Counselor, at night when you're angry and questioning? That is not coming from God.
There will be a point where you think, "I married the wrong person."
There is no unicorn.
You will always disagree, you will find flaws.
It is a daily relationship development.
Grace and God's love allows you to choose to love someone.
Emotions will trick you, feelings don't last. They will disappear, the goosebumps will dissipate.
Marriage is choosing to love that person, better or worse. A literal vow. A promise, covenantal vow.
Pray for that person and let God give you peace on that.
Don't doubt in the darkness what God has revealed in the light.
Trust God's peace.
Marriage as the "end goal"?
False assumption is that marriage brings bliss.
Get to learn them, date them for at least a year before marriage.
That's all for now.
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